Marriage Advice From A Gardener

I really enjoy gardening and have always been struck by the similarities between creating and maintaining a beautiful garden and building a marriage that will thrive and outlast anything that circumstances throw at it. May I offer you a few tips?

Mulching

A layer of mulch over the soil in the garden keeps away the snails, stops the weeds growing and keeps in the moisture.

When you spend time together in your marriage, taking an interest in each other, doing life together, being a couple, you cover your life with a layer of protection. Your marriage is not vulnerable to drying out. Other things don’t invade, choke and damage your love.

'Live happily together in a spirit of harmony, and be as mindful of another’s worth as you are your own.' Romans 12:16 (TPT)

Strategic Planting

Sometimes a plant is used in a garden because it has another function other than just being decorative. It may shield tender plants from strong winds or give off a scent that keeps away damaging insect pests.

Make friends with other couples that you both respect.

'Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.' Proverbs 13:20 (MSG)

You need friends who will not be afraid to give you solid advice and help you get over some of the difficulties you may encounter from time to time in your marriage. Don’t fall into the trap of each having your own separate relationships.

Watering

A garden that never gets watered is soon wrecked - dead, brown grass, weed filled borders, wilted plants.

It is vital in a marriage to regularly give each other a little tender, loving care.

'Regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.' Colossians 3:‬14 (MSG)

Husband, the most special person in your life is your wife. Wife, the most special person in your life is your husband. Don’t ever stop saying, “I love you.” Don’t stop buying each other little gifts. And when the little ones come along, don’t ignore each other and focus only on the children. 

Keep watering the plant! 

-Steve Low

Steve is married to Liz and together serve as Senior Leaders at Home Church